Intensive online workshop series: The Enneagram of Object Relations

Why is this so important?

Each Enneagram type is characterised by a ‘dominant affect’ (the dominant feeling we are trying to find ways to live with in relationships).  These dominant feelings are fundamental, our “default” emotional state, and infuse almost every aspect of our life, especially our relationships. If unconscious, they basically run the whole show. 

Object relations are dynamic internalised representations of the relationships between the self and significant others.

An object relation involves mental representations of:

  1. The object as perceived by the self 
  2. The self in relation to the object
  3. The relationship between self and object

Don Riso and Russ Hudson integrated object relations insights and the Enneagram of personality, discovering and naming three object relations triads. In doing so, they unlocked extremely powerful keys to change. 

The object relations triads are:  

  • 825 = The Rejection Triad.
  • 936 = The Attachment Triad.
  • 147 = The Frustration Triad.

Course structure:

In this course we will explore each of the Enneagram object relations triads in-depth, both theoretically and therapeutically, going into the Enneagram teachings, as well as reflecting on our own life stories and sharing our realisations about our Types, Tri – fixes, and Subtypes. Coaches and counselors will be equipped to use the Enneagram understandings of the object relations triads, linked with insights into each type’s characteristic defense mechanisms, as powerful keys to unlocking lasting change.

Dates: Monday, May 17th, 24th, 31st from 18.00-21.00 SAST / 9.00-12.00 PDT / 11.00-13.00 CDT / 10.00-12.00 MDT / 12.00-15.00 EDT.

Cost: R3 500 +VAT (South African residents) / $345 (overseas residents)

Entry requirements: Previous experience studying and/ or using the Enneagram. If you are relatively new to the Enneagram and are interested in doing this workshop series, Ingrid is offering a free 90min pre-workshop session on Monday 10 May at 6 pm SAST which will provide an introduction to the Enneagram as a dynamic map of the psyche.

Please specify your interest in this when you register on the sign-up form below.

Course content:

Process: The content ratio is 80:20. Condensed high-impact insights and content will be given as pre-reading. No assignments other than self-observation.

We will explore how our object relations pattern arose from our early childhood experiences in the areas of safety (head centre), love (heart centre), and respect for human dignity and autonomy (gut centre). We will understand how our object relations ‘dominant affect’ is embedded in our Enneagram type and explore how this manifests in our subtype preoccupations, distortions and fixations, particularly in the area of relationships. The key theorists that inform the course are Melanie Klein (1882 – 1960); William Ronald Dodge Fairbairn (1889-1965); D.W. Winnicott (1896-1971), as well as the major Enneagram teachers such as Don Riso, Russ Hudson, Belinda Gore, Beatrice Chestnut and others. We will also bring in the work of psychoanalyst Karen Horney (1885-1952) whose insights into our defensive strategies (against anxiety related to early childhood rejection, abandonment, indifference, and so on) provide a more refined understanding of our intra-psychic dynamics and type behaviour. These strategies are described by the Hornevian Triads, which we will overlay on the object relations triads to understand how each object relations type defends against the object relations hurt. – i.e. Withdrawal (9,4,5), Aggression (8,3,7), or Compliance (1,2,6). 

Course designer and facilitator: Ingrid Hurwitz.

Ingrid HurwitzIngrid started her career as a Strategy Consultant, (at Monitor, now part of Deloitte), and later had roles as Head of Strategic Marketing Analytics; Transformation and Sustainability; Leadership Development, and L&D (all in the financial services sector).

Over the past decade, Ingrid’s path has led her to become a full-time Enneagram specialist, teacher, and personal transformation facilitator. She currently works with executives, (coaching, team effectiveness, and OD), and trains other coaches and facilitators in applying the Enneagram. Ingrid’s deepest joy is facilitating small, intensive Enneagram-based personal transformation and learning groups. Ingrid has presented at two International Enneagram Conferences so far and will be giving her first IEA International Conference presentation in 2021.



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Intensive online workshop series: The Enneagram of Object Relations

Why is this so important?

Each Enneagram type is characterised by a ‘dominant affect’ (the dominant feeling we are trying to find ways to live with in relationships).  These dominant feelings are fundamental, our “default” emotional state, and infuse almost every aspect of our life, especially our relationships. If unconscious, they basically run the whole show. 

Object relations are dynamic internalised representations of the relationships between the self and significant others.

An object relation involves mental representations of:

  1. The object as perceived by the self 
  2. The self in relation to the object
  3. The relationship between self and object

Don Riso and Russ Hudson integrated object relations insights and the Enneagram of personality, discovering and naming three object relations triads. In doing so, they unlocked extremely powerful keys to change. 

The object relations triads are:  

  • 825 = The Rejection Triad.
  • 936 = The Attachment Triad.
  • 147 = The Frustration Triad.

Course structure:

In this course we will explore each of the Enneagram object relations triads in-depth, both theoretically and therapeutically, going into the Enneagram teachings, as well as reflecting on our own life stories and sharing our realisations about our Types, Tri – fixes, and Subtypes. Coaches and counselors will be equipped to use the Enneagram understandings of the object relations triads, linked with insights into each type’s characteristic defense mechanisms, as powerful keys to unlocking lasting change.

Dates: Monday, May 17th, 24th, 31st from 18.00-21.00 SAST / 9.00-12.00 PDT / 11.00-13.00 CDT / 10.00-12.00 MDT / 12.00-15.00 EDT.

Cost: R3 500 +VAT(South African residents) / $345 (overseas residents)

Entry requirements: Previous experience studying and/ or using the Enneagram. If you are relatively new to the Enneagram and are interested in doing this workshop series, Ingrid is offering a free 90min pre-workshop session on Monday 10 May at 6 pm SAST which will provide an introduction to the Enneagram as a dynamic map of the psyche.

Please specify your interest in this when you register on the sign-up form below.

Course content:

Process: The content ratio is 80:20. Condensed high-impact insights and content will be given as pre-reading. No assignments other than self-observation.

We will explore how our object relations pattern arose from our early childhood experiences in the areas of safety (head centre), love (heart centre), and respect for human dignity and autonomy (gut centre). We will understand how our object relations ‘dominant affect’ is embedded in our Enneagram type and explore how this manifests in our subtype preoccupations, distortions and fixations, particularly in the area of relationships. The key theorists that inform the course are Melanie Klein (1882 – 1960); William Ronald Dodge Fairbairn (1889-1965); D.W. Winnicott (1896-1971), as well as the major Enneagram teachers such as Don Riso, Russ Hudson, Belinda Gore, Beatrice Chestnut and others. We will also bring in the work of psychoanalyst Karen Horney (1885-1952) whose insights into our defensive strategies (against anxiety related to early childhood rejection, abandonment, indifference, and so on) provide a more refined understanding of our intra-psychic dynamics and type behaviour. These strategies are described by the Hornevian Triads, which we will overlay on the object relations triads to understand how each object relations type defends against the object relations hurt. – i.e. Withdrawal (9,4,5), Aggression (8,3,7), or Compliance (1,2,6). 

Course designer and facilitator: Ingrid Hurwitz.

Ingrid HurwitzIngrid started her career as a Strategy Consultant, (at Monitor, now part of Deloitte), and later had roles as Head of Strategic Marketing Analytics; Transformation and Sustainability; Leadership Development, and L&D (all in the financial services sector).

Over the past decade, Ingrid’s path has led her to become a full-time Enneagram specialist, teacher, and personal transformation facilitator. She currently works with executives, (coaching, team effectiveness, and OD), and trains other coaches and facilitators in applying the Enneagram. Ingrid’s deepest joy is facilitating small, intensive Enneagram-based personal transformation and learning groups. Ingrid has presented at two International Enneagram Conferences so far and will be giving her first IEA International Conference presentation in 2021.



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